WHEN WE FEEL WRONGED

In our Self-Care Tuesday Group we looked at where we go when we feel wronged. Are you someone who shrinks away or lashes out? Do you allow yourself to feel your feelings? How do you tend to yourself and are you willing to have the hard conversations?

In moments where you feel hurt, dismissed, or unseen, it's important to practice self-compassion and speak to yourself in a loving way. Most times when people say hurtful things it is because they are uneducated or unskillful.

Feel it all

Feel your feelings and let the pain move through. Consider the source. At any moment, you don't really know what's happening for someone else. Maybe they’ve had a bad night’s sleep, a fight with their spouse, or maybe they haven't eaten for several hours and they have low blood sugar. Try your best not to take it personally.

Being in Integrity

Sometimes people judge you simply for doing what is true for you. For example, if your spouse dies and you start dating relatively soon, some friends may judge you and think it's too soon. How could they possibly know what you need? Only you know what you need and perhaps those who are judging you have not walked in your shoes. Nonetheless, you may feel hurt and abandoned. In these cases, it may be useful to lean in and have the hard conversations. When you're willing to have difficult conversations, you open the door to deeper intimacy with friends and loved ones. When you shy away from having these conversations, you are choosing to live with a wedge between you. Cultivating close friendships based in honesty takes practice and a willingness to be uncomfortable and to allow others to be uncomfortable as well.

Intimate Relationships

What kinds of relationships are you choosing? And are you willing to say the hard things? In our group, we talk about everything. We learn from each other, see each other and hold each other in the light of love.

Coming Up Next Week: The Places We Go to Self-Assess

Most of us know about pride and humility…but hubris isn’t a word that is commonly used. When we realize the differences these words bring to our lives, we can better gauge ourselves, the way the words fit into our lives, and how curiosity allows us to have clarity about what is actually happening for us. Come with curiosity to see how we can be more gentle in our self-assessment, perhaps even finding more love for ourselves.

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