EXPLORING PRIDE & HUMILITY
Today in our Self-Care Tuesday group we looked at the places we go when we self-assess. We discussed how it's useful to be curious about the difference in meaning we bring to words and how it impacts our lives.
Words like pride and humility are powerful. Pride is often informed by the ego, whereas healthy self- acknowledgment is different from being prideful. There is a fine line between acknowledging yourself and your worth, and becoming arrogant and prideful. Pride often causes separation. It may cause us to want to steer clear of a person entirely rather than connect with them.
Humility, on the other hand, opens us to connection because the ego is out of the way, and what shines forth is the heart. Pride may appear when you think you can “do it better than other people” rather than trusting that the people who are showing up in your life are there to teach you and grow you.
Taking pride in others
You may find it easier to take pride in other people's accomplishments, and to be proud of your own children no matter what. Perhaps you can experiment with being proud of yourself and acknowledging yourself for how you show up in your life.
Maybe you are someone who took the initiative to learn about your child's Rare disease when they were first diagnosed and maybe you became an expert or even started your own foundation. Take pride in how you show up and the way you care for your Rare child.
A Self-acknowledgment practice
I suggest that you take time every day to acknowledge yourself out loud. Pause, take a few deep breaths, and acknowledge what you are proud of about yourself.
Some examples might be:
I make time to be there for people
I make my bed every morning
I show up to the weekly support groups on a regular basis
I'm proud of how I've gotten through the hard times.
Your self-acknowledgment can inspire others. Maybe you are someone who recognized that taking care of your Rare child at home was too much for you, and you had to make the difficult choice of putting them into a group home. Be proud of yourself for showing up and telling the truth.
The truth will set you free.
Coming up next week: The Places We Go with Others
The natural place for most of us to go with others is sympathy or empathy. These can quickly move into compassion or pity. Yet, the place many of us struggle with is appropriate boundaries. Understanding ourselves with these emotions, gives us the insights to set boundaries for ourselves more easily. Come define what those might look like for you in the safety of our Tuesday morning group.
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