EMBRACING WHAT IS

Today in our Tuesday Women's Empowerment Circle we had a very tender conversation where we touched upon the end of life and what it is to experience survivorship. In this contemplation, you may have many feelings including anticipatory, grief loss, and perhaps even a little bit of relief that you are no longer in such an intense caregiving role. Looking ahead and feeling into what is likely inevitable is like walking through a doorway that you never wanted to walk through. It takes courage and willingness and it is time well spent even though it may be painful. And, there are things you can do to support yourself along the way.

Dreams

One of the things you can do to navigate this heartbreaking journey is to remember the dreams that you had for yourself and for your family. Take a moment and enjoy how you felt when you imagined that those dreams would come true. When you do this you can take breaks From the difficulty of the life that you are living.

One of our group members has lost three Rare children and losing them was incredibly painful. However, she has leaned on her faith to help her get through it. Whether you believe that you will meet again in the afterlife, or if you believe that their souls are free, you can trust that faith will guide you through the toughest of times.

Envision

You might also choose to take time to envision how your Rare child would have been had they lived a full life. You can still want them to live a long and healthy life, even if they can't have it. It is still beautiful to allow yourself to luxuriate in this vision.

Be present

One of the best things you can do is to cherish every moment you have by being present. We all know that there is no promise of any particular outcome and nothing is guaranteed for any of us. Take the time to be here now and sip on the joy in the midst of the messy and the mundane. Presence is the middle way. Take time to meditate, pray and let yourself be nourished by small moments of self-care. Tending to yourself is essential. If you do not, you may feel overwhelm descend upon you. Do your best to resist worry or anticipation and enjoy your life. And at the same time, lean into the reality that your Rare child will almost certainly leave this earth before you do. And one never knows…

Coming Up Next Week: Setting Up A Sustainable Structure 

As we near the end of this series, we will take time to harvest the fruits of our time together by creating a working list of things you can do in your life to create a sustainable structure in your life as a Raregiver.  This is a time to share what you’ve learned, what’s already working in your life and the things that you intend to implement to create a sustainable life for you and your Rare family. Doing this in community is powerful. Please join us.

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